Today I have lost it.
Word has been spreading over that last week that Ghana now REQUIRES both parents be present in court. One of the reason we chose to adopt from Ghana is that neither of us had to travel for court. It was one of the only countries we could afford to adopt from. (Not to mention I just fell in love with the country for some reason.)
So all the sudden it goes from neither of us traveling for court to both of us traveling for court. At first I was a little discouraged. It's gonna be a little extra cost than we thought. Then I started REALLY thinking about it. It's not a little extra cost. It's ALOT extra.
First, Al will miss a week of work. With no pay.
That's gonna hurt. Alot.
On top of that is the cost of food and a hotel for that week. That wouldn't be so bad, if we weren't missing a WHOLE PAYCHECK for that week!
Then, I got the bright idea to check the flight price on Delta's website. Heart attack!
I was nearly in tears when the price popped up as $2,059.99. How are we going to afford $2,059.99?
Oh wait- that tiny writing. It says "per passenger".
And I'm pretty sure there is another part of the agency's fee due before travel!
So it has now gone from 'we are going to be completely broke' to 'we can't do it'. Not that it will be REALLY difficult. Can't. Do. It. There is not even that much money in the bank! Checking and savings combined!!
So what now? We can't just say "Sorry kids, we don't have the money."
We can't say "Just wait another year or two, then maybe we can afford you".
I just don't know.
Anybody who has been through this whole thing- any idea?
I've already depleted my (very small) 401k. We've called about borrowing against Al's 401k twice. They DO NOT allow us to borrow for adoption.
We've even sold several pieces of furniture from our house! Still not enough.
So, now what?